Maia Gets Tied Up Chapter 4

Maia Gets Tied Up Chapter 4

Maia lay in David’s arms, basking in the afterglow of their play. Her skin showed the indents of where the rope had been tied. Her face and chest flushed red from exertion. David lay stroking her hair, and letting her come down gently back into the world of now.

He kissed the top of her head and breathed in the strawberry scent of her shampoo enjoying just holding her close while she recovered.

“You’re beautiful, Maia. I love how your skin blushes just here, and here,” he said, planting kisses on her chest where she had flushed most red.

Maia took a steadying breath, and her blue eyes gazed intensely into David’s hazel ones. She liked how his eyes flecked greenish grey. She giggled, a little annoyed at the fact that his eyes, were framed with beautiful long lashes, the kind she could only achieve with mascara.

She rubbed her wrists where the rope had imprinted the most, and wriggled to loosen the blanket wrapped around her.

“How did you get into rope play,” she asked.

“Hrmmm, it was a couple of years ago, I was looking for something new to try, and a lover of mine tied me up.” He said. “I loved the feeling and the smell of the ropes so much, I started trying to learn everything I could.”

“mmmm, I’m very glad you did,” said Maia, admiring the marks on her wrists that were still feeling deliciously sensitive.

“What about you, my rope bunny, how did you come to enjoy being tied up so much?” asked David “I’m clearly not your first.”

Maia blushed furiously red.

“Actually, you are my very first,” she said quietly.

“you’re so trusting and so relaxed, it’s like tying a professional,” said David.

“Well, thank you… I guess,” said Maia.

She thought back to other experiences she’d had. Other lovers had been bumbling or happy to satisfy themselves without worrying about her pleasure, David was different, he could restrain her with a word, enslave her with his ropes, but he served her pleasure, and worshipped her cunt.

Maia wasn’t used to such attentions, at all. David spoiled her, and she was happy to get used to it.

She stretched languidly over the sofa, feeling back in the world of the present. David got up and fetched her a glass of water, and sat beside her pulling the blanket over the two of them.

“When is Sarah due home?” Asked David.

“Not until tomorrow mid afternoon,” replied Maia “She’s having a naughty weekend with Ben and Cassie.”

“Fun.” said David a little dryly.

“You don’t approve?” asked Maia

“No, it’s not that I don’t approve of Sarah and her shenanigans, it’s just that I can’t stand the way that Cassie and Ben treat her. She’s like their fucktoy she has no rights in their relationship.”

“Mmmm yeah, I know what you mean, but Sarah’s a big girl. If she wasn’t having fun, she wouldn’t put up with Ben and Cassie,” replied Maia, defending her friend’s current lifestyle arrangements.

Sarah had always maintained non monogamous relationships, but recently had become a “unicorn” for a couple, Cassie and Ben. Cassie and Ben had a tendency to prioritise their coupledom above Sarah’s needs and wants.

Maia was concerned for her friend, but also recognised that Sarah was making her own choices, and didn’t want to interfere unless she was at risk of harm.

“Sarah is a big girl, but she’s also smitten and head over heels with Cassie. It’s going to end in tears, I just know it,” said David.

“Let’s go to bed,” said Maia “Sarah’s got this, and she’ll be okay. Besides, she’s got us to wipe her tears if she needs us.”

“Mmmmm,” said David, picturing the last time that Maia and her had ‘cared’ for Sarah.

Sarah had come home feeling dejected and controlled from an evening of play with Cassie and Ben. She’d discussed the possibility of dating another partner, to meet her own needs outside of the relationship, but Cassie and Ben had forbidden it.

Offering her friend, a shoulder to cry on quite literally, had resulted in Maia pulling Sarah into a warm, embrace. Both women had been surprised by the electricity that sparked between them, and Maia, already aroused from her interrupted play with David asked if she could kiss Sarah.

“Yes, please,” Sarah responded quite breathlessly, and the two women found themselves entangled in a loving kiss.

“Well that made me feel better,” Sarah said, pulling away from the kiss a little surprised.

“I’m so glad, beautiful,” said Maia.

David had been watching in amused surprise as his lover awkwardly remembered his presence

“Oh hey there,” said Sarah, blushing.

“Ahhh hi,” grinned, Maia.

They had disentangled and headed to their separate rooms a little flustered and aroused with the new development in their friendship.

David found a smile dancing across his face at the memory, he loved watching his lover feel loved and pleasured. He especially enjoyed how awkward and cute Maia was about the kiss. She was downright adorable when she was flustered.

David and Maia fell asleep wrapped around one another, and Maia slept more deeply than she had in weeks, totally spent and satisfied from their play.

As the sun streamed in through the fifth-floor window, Maia stretched and yawned, and rolled over to find David’s half of the bed empty. The smell of freshly brewed coffee wafted through the apartment. Maia smiled and propped herself up in bed.

“Good morning, starshine,” said David bringing her a cup of steaming coffee “how did you sleep?”

“Like a log,” replied Maia “You wore me out.”

David guffawed.

“You snored, Maia,” he chuckled.

“I did? Gosh, I’m sorry! Ha!” Maia laughed.

“Yes, it was kind of cute, in a freight train sort of way,” replied David. “Drink your coffee, I want to get that sexy arse of yours into a shower with me.”

Maia drank her coffee and bounced out of bed.

David turned on the shower and steam began to fill up the small bathroom. Stripping naked, he stepped into the warm water. Maia watched for a moment as water ran in rivulets over his naked body.

“Get here, you,” David beckoned.

Maia threw off the baggy tee-shirt she’d gone to bed in, and stepped under the hot water. David’s hands, like silk slid over her body, pulling her close, until she could feel his erection teasing between her legs. He slid his hands over her arse, up around her waist, and up to cup her breasts, feeling the weight of them in his hands.

Maia mewed and pushed her body closer to his, her hands sliding over his shoulders and neck, pulling his face down to kiss her. Their lips met in the hot running water, and his tongue teased her lips. David’s hands wandered over Maia’s body, pulling her as close as he could, grinding his cock into the space between her legs.

He spun her to face the shower recess wall, and pushed her back against it. She gasped as the cold tiles hit her back but quickly adjusted to the temperature. David pushed one hand above her head, pinning it, then the other and held both of her wrists in a vicelike grip. His spare hand worked her pussy until it was dripping wet with desire.

Maia moaned and wriggled against her bonds, knowing that it pleased David when she struggled a little against his restraint. She ground her pussy over David’s hard cock, trying to edge him into her wetness.

David was happy to oblige, lifting one of Maia’s legs slightly up, so he could slide into her he thrust his cock into her waiting pussy. Her brown hair was straggly around her face as he released her arms, and grabbed a fistful of her hair for better leverage.

Maia’s arms wrapped around David, her fingertips raking over his back, her hands cupping his arse, pulling him deeper into her, faster, harder, faster. His fingers traversed her body, pinching her nipples, cupping her breasts, pulling her closer to him so he could fuck her more deeply.

David kissed her neck and bit her shoulders, grazing his teeth over her trapezius muscles, Maia shivered in delight, edging closer to orgasm with each bite. His hand slid between them, finding her clit, and he massaged it roughly, sending Maia’s body into spasms of ecstasy as she came, hard.

David thrust faster, and faster, both hands on Maia’s arse. She could feel his cock getting harder as he too came, deep inside her.

He leaned against her as the hot water ran over their bodies, teasing little shivers out of David, and gently relaxing Maia. He kissed her passionately, and pulled her face up to look at his.

“Good morning, you.”

“You’re way better than coffee, Sir,” Maia replied.

“Come on, let’s towel off, Sarah will be home soon,” said David, as he turned off the taps, and offered Maia a warm, fluffy, towel.


Maia Gets Tied Up Chapter 3

Maia Gets Tied Up: Chapter 3

Maia felt deliciously calm as she and David set about preparing dinner. Soon the small kitchen of Maia’s apartment was filled with the smells of sizzling garlic and onions, as they prepared a bolognaise together.

David stood at the stove front gently stirring the pasta as the water bubbled in a rolling boil, he wiggled his butt in a happy dance, as Maia wrapped her arms around his waist, and kissed his neck.

“Hey you.”

“I’m under your spell, you know…” Maia whispered.

“I know,” said David, “I love it”.

His face had a slight sheen from the steam of the pasta pot, and he flushed slightly as Maia cupped his arse and squeezed.

“The pasta is fine for a bit, come here and kiss me.” said Maia, pulling David away from the stove and into her embrace, kissing him lightly on the mouth.

David pulled her closer, and kissed her deeply, his tongue massaging her lips, his teeth nibbling at her. Maia melted into him, consumed by his kiss and the taste of his mouth.

“You know what I’m going to do to you later, Maia?” David said, breathlessly.

Maia’s calm was quickly unravelling.

“No sir, why don’t you tell me,” she replied, brattily.

“Oh no, my little slut, I’m not going to indulge you that easily. You can wait.”

They served their dinner and sat down to eat, Maia’s heart racing in anticipation for what the evening held. She knew she was going to be tied up, she knew she was going to be teased, tormented, and have her limits tested.

She knew that David had the gentlest hands as they ran over her body, and that they shocked her when he spanked her arse. The contrast of his soft touch, and his almost vicious spankings kept her guessing, never quite sure how he was going to touch her.

Her calm was gone.

Barely able to contain herself, she ate the rest of her dinner in silence, and took her plate to the sink.

“You’re quiet my love, are you okay?” David asked.

“I’m more than okay, I’m just lost in my imagination.”

David walked over to the sofa where he had left his bag, he unzipped the zipper and a whiff of sweet hay smell filled Maia’s nose.

“Come here, remove your dress, and sit,” he commanded.

The smell of David’s ropes caused Maia’s pussy to throb, as she slipped her dress over her head and knelt down before David. She could see the bulge in his trousers as he regarded her naked body. The air felt cool on her, and she could almost feel the heat of his gaze burning on her skin.

His hands were firm as he guided her wrists behind her, drawing the rope around them into a secure knot. David removed his shirt and Maia admired his half naked body, as he pulled her to standing. He stood behind her nibbling at her shoulders, and kissing her neck, murmuring nothing in particular into her hair.

Her hands moved freely in their bonds, secured at her back, but able to twist and caress his belly, and the heat in his trousers. She tussled at his belt buckle, and tried to undo the button of his jeans.

In one swift move, David pulled the rope tight securing Maia’s arms into a more disciplined position His kisses turned to bites on her shoulders, and Maia gasps as her breathing became heavier, ragged.

She sunk back into his touch as he drew more rope around her arms and torso, criss-crossing her breasts, and and upper arms, expertly securing her into a ushirote munenawa position. Her arms secured behind her back, and a tight harness lacing her torso and chest, showing off her breasts to full effect.

David yanks the ropes upwards, drawing Maia to the tips of her toes, and she knows that she is entirely at his mercy.

David touches her hand and finds it warm and responsive, reassuring him that the ropes are safely tied.

Using the ropes as a handle, David spins Maia to face him. Her breasts spill over the rope at the front, tempting, delicious, aching to be sucked, but he waits. He can see her heaving breaths coming in ragged gasps, as she mews and moans with her eyes closed tight.

Maia can barely think, she keeps her eyes closed tight, and succumbs to pure sensation. The ropes make it slightly difficult to breathe, and she is entirely in David’s control. With one hand steadying Maia, he throws a cushion from the sofa to the floor, and gently and firmly guides her to her knees.

“Open your eyes, Maia,” he commanded.

Breathlessly, Maia opens her eyes, and see’s David’s cock straining at his trousers in front of her face. He slowly and purposefully unbuttons his trousers, and pulls his cock into his hand, stroking it lightly.

Maia leans forward, eagerly, to bring his cock to her mouth, but David keeps his hand in place, stroking himself, holding Maia’s head inches away from him with his spare hand.

She wriggles, but the ropes binding her chest and arms keep her secure, there is no getting her hands out unless David frees her.

“Fuck, David,” Maia groans, arching her back to get closer to his cock. “I need you. Please, sir.”

David strokes his cock across Maia’s waiting lips, she can taste the precum on him, and opens her mouth to receive him, but he is not forthcoming. Instead, he rolls Maia onto her side, exposing her sex, glistening wet with desire.

He rifles through his duffle bag until he finds what he’s looking for, a mean looking vibrator. Maia’s eyes widen as she looks at the monster sized phallus.

Slowly, his eyes burning her skin, he pushes her legs apart, sliding the vibrator inch by inch into her pussy. Maia feels it filling her, stretching her, and she aches for more touch.

“You want?” David growls.

“Pleassse sir,” Maia whimpers.

David needed no more encouragement, as he turned on the vibrator and fucked Maia’s dripping cunt. Her legs shook, and her stomach clenched as she neared orgasm. She bucked her body back against David, encouraging him to fill her deeper, as she edged closer and closer to cumming. As he legs trembled uncontrollably, David pulled the vibrator out, leaving cruelly right on the very edge of an orgasm.

“Did I say you could cum, Maia?” he growled menacingly.

“No sir, you didn’t.”

“Then you wait.”

Using the ropes for leverage, David pulled Maia to her knees again. Taking another length of rope, he wrapped her waist, and drew two knots over her sodden pussy creating a delightful crotch harness. Maia could feel the ropes pressing hard against her clit, driving her mad with lust.

David tucked the vibrator down the back of the crotch harness and turned it on. Immediately, the vibrations spread through the whole rope, Maia screamed with the effort of holding back an orgasm.

“Please sir.”

David took his cock in hand, and guided it to Maia’s mouth, she eagerly drew it into her mouth, teasing the tip with her tongue and sucking, drawing him deep into her throat.

David groaned.

He bunched his fingers in her hair, pulling her head deep down on to his cock, thrusting into her mouth. Her eyes watered, and she looked up at him beggingly.

“Now you may come Maia, come for me babe,” he said.

Maia’s whole body shook with the force of her orgasm as the tingling sensations in her clit drove her over the edge into an intense climax. David held her hair tight, as he fucked her mouth, hard, cumming into her throat.

His hands became soft again, stroking her hair, brushing the sweat from her brow, and lifting her chin to look at him.

“Hey there, beautiful, you are amazing, and you did amazingly.”

Maia’s blue eyes stared back up at him, and she felt flushed with lust and emotion as he pulled her to her feet, and wrapped his arms around her. Never letting go of contact, he hugged her to his chest and untied the ropes.

This time, the sliding, vibrating sensations of the hemp sent shivers through her body. David held her tightly, kissing her neck, stroking her hair, and stroking her arms as he freed them.

He pulled a blanket off the sofa, and wrapped her like a sushi roll inside it, scooping her up he pulled her onto his lap on the sofa, cuddling her and kissing her hair.

“I could fall in love with you, Maia,” he whispered “I think I already have.”

Maia listened to his heart beat as she dozily came down from subspace.

“That feeling is entirely mutual,” she breathed.


Maia Gets Tied Up Chapter 2

Maia Gets Tied Up: Chapter 2

As the sun streamed through the window of her fifth-floor bedroom, Maia could barely contain her excitement. Tonight, her lover was all hers for the evening, and the memory of their last encounter was still fresh in her mind.

She pulled on baggy tee-shirt and underpants, and poured herself some orange juice as she set about preparing a fried egg and some toast. As she sat eating her egg, Maia’s thoughts drifted back to her lover. He was taller than her, with warm eyes, and soft, strong, hands, he had thick curly hair, and an infectious smile. Maia thought about how it felt to rest her head on his chest and breathe in his scent.

A smile teased its way across her face and she finished her eggs with relish.

Her housemate, Sarah, was away for the weekend with her own partners, intentionally leaving Maia some extra privacy to enjoy her time with her lover.

By noon, Maia’s busy-tasks were done, and Maia decided it was time to shower, and get ready for her lover’s arrival. She turned on the taps and stepped under the water. The hot water felt refreshing and soothing after the morning of chores. As she washed herself her thoughts became expansive, and drifted back to her lover’s caresses. As she found herself getting aroused again, she turned off the water, and roughly towelled herself down.

“Later” she chided herself.

She glanced at her naked body in the mirror before wrapping herself in her robe.

“Not bad, not bad at all” she thought of her curvy arse, full breasts, and soft belly.

Maia dressed herself in a simple cotton dress, intentionally choosing to forgo a bra, knowing the dress showed off her breasts to full effect. It fell gracefully over her hips, flaring out into a full skirt. She swept her hair up into a clip, leaving a few tendrils to fall about her face. She assessed the ensemble in the mirror, and decided that she looked effortless, and cute.

The doorbell rang, and Maia composed herself, took a steadying breath and answered the door.

“Hello, David” she breathed.

“Hi, beautiful” he replied, sweeping her into his arms and pulling her close enough that she could feel his cock swelling in his pants.

She bit her lip, trying to control the carnal thoughts racing through her head. David pushed her up against the doorframe and kissed her long and deep, his teeth nibbling at her lips, his tongue teasing hers as he held her pinned.

He pulled back with a grin on his face. “A week is too long, lover” he said.

“Tell me about it” replied Maia, pulling him by his shirt front into the apartment and closing the door.

He looked her up and down, and Maia blushed as his eyes lingered on her full breasts.

“Shall we play?” he asked

“Not just yet, I want to hear your heart for a while first” said Maia, and she pulled him down onto the sofa beside her, nestling her head into her favourite spot on his chest.

David’s hands, soft as silk, smoothed her dress, following the lines of her body over her waist, over her arse and legs, and back to her arse, where he lingered, gently squeezing it’s fullness.

Maia sighed contentedly, and wriggled a little to give him more access to her body. David was all too happy to oblige and his hands wandered over her thighs, and traced the curve of her sex, as he pulled her face up to meet his kiss. His lips melted over hers, and she tasted his breath as his breathing grew faster and ragged, he cupped her arse, pulling her closer still until she straddled him on the sofa.

“So much for just a cuddle” Maia said, breathlessly.

She slid her arms around the back of his neck, pulling David’s face close enough so she could taste the desire on his breath, and leant forward to kiss him again. This time, taking her time, and slowly savouring the feeling of his lips, his tongue, and his breath.

Maia could feel David’s cock aching to burst free from his pants, as she grinded her pelvis onto him. She relished in how badly he needed her.

A soft groan escaped David’s lips as he ran his hands over Maia’s round arse, and kissed her back, deeply and passionately.

In one swift movement, David swivelled Maia’s legs across his body, and scooped her up into his arms. He plonked her gently down on the couch, and began to negotiate the folds of her skirt, lifting them over her legs, revealing her long calves, and curvy thighs.

“No underpants?” he grinned.

He gently pushed her legs apart, as she relaxed back onto the sofa, her skirt hitched up around her waist, her pussy exposed and shining wet in the soft light of the apartment.

Maia giggled a little, and said “Do you like it?”

“I love it” David replied, as he took deep lick of her folds. David buried his face deep into her pussy, taking long, purposeful licks, leaving nothing un-kissed. His hands wandered up under Maia’s skirt, finding her breasts, squeezing them gently, his fingers narrowing over her nipples, teasing them taut and erect, as his lips closed over her clit, sucking it roughly into his mouth, as his tongue flicked over it.

Maia whimpered in pleasure as David’s silken hands became rougher, and he squeezed hard on each nipple, all the while maintaining relentless licks of her cunt. His hands slid down her body, over the curves of her belly and hips, and down to her pussy, where with two fingers he plunged into her. Her pussy sounded juicy and wet as his tongue teased her clit, and his fingers massaged her deep inside, Maia’s legs began to shake, her toes tingled and her breath came in gasps as she came, hard into David’s waiting mouth.

She flopped back on the couch, catching her breath. David kissed her belly, and slid up to meet her face.

“Shall we make dinner?” he asked.


Maia Gets Tied Up Chapter 1

Maia Gets Tied Up – Chapter 1

The rain fell drearily on the window of Maia’s office. She looked at her face reflected back in the grey window her blue eyes darkened by the outside gloom.

The office was quiet save for the tap-tapping of keyboards, for a Friday afternoon, the quiet was heavy and almost as gloomy as the weather outside. Maia looked at the clock; 5pm. She wasn’t normally one to shut her laptop so quickly and rush home, but tonight she had her apartment all to herself, and she had plans.

Gathering her things, she hurried down the office stairs, wondering if anyone could read her thoughts. It had been a week since her lover and her had shared an intense encounter, and Maia was still riding the high from it.

Could anyone tell how damp her panties were? Could they tell how turned on she was? The thought amused her as she bustled through the pedestrian traffic towards the train station. She half hoped that the scent of her arousal would turn on the people she passed, and upon finding herself in a crowded train carriage, she blushed furiously, trying to calm and contain her thoughts.

Her apartment was on the fifth floor. Maia trooped up the steps and reached her door slightly out of breath. She walked into the small, somewhat messy apartment and revelled in her solitude.

Her flatmate was away for the weekend, and Maia had plans to meet her lover tomorrow. Tonight however, she had the place to herself.

She drew a bath, filled with bubbles and sunk down into the tub, luxuriating in the warm water as she let her mind wander.

Maia lay, legs slightly parted remembering the first time she was tied up. Her fingers snaked over her soft belly, over the short mound of pubic hair, and gently parted her lips.

She pondered and let her thoughts drift back to a week ago…

Her lover has the softest hands, hands that slide over her body like silk. She waits for his warm embrace, but it wasn’t forthcoming that day.

“Sit” he commands imperiously.

Maia sat obediently on the floor, palms folded in her lap, acutely aware of her nakedness, restrained by his word, waiting for him. He uncoils a length of hemp rope, slowly and purposefully until he held the midpoint of the rope in his palm.

The ropes smell of fresh hay, a smell so sweetly potent, just a whiff is enough to make her heart race and set her blushing, as she feels her pulse in her cunt.

That throbbing sensation in her sex is what consumes Maia as she sat waiting.

Those soft hands firmly grip her wrists, guiding her arms behind her, and she feels the rope drag lightly across her back, her breasts, as her arms are tied firmly. Her lover kisses her neck.

“How are you, lover? Is this okay?”

Maia smiles sweetly

“This is magical sir, please keep going.”

Without another word, he rolls Maia to her side and secures her feet in a hogtie. Each pass of the rope sends vibrations down the rest of the rope, and Maia can feel her wrists, her back and her breasts tingle with sensation. She breathes in the sweet hay smell, and allows herself to drift away into her thoughts.

Rolled on her side, her sex exposed, the wetness of her grows warm, slippery, and wet with desire. The cool air on her breasts teases her nipples to stiff, erect, nubs.

Maia’s breath begins to quicken and her brain gives in to the fact that neither her hands nor her feet were at her disposal any more.

She is at the mercy of her lover; she has to trust. Maia had her safe words tucked in the back of her brain somewhere, if she needed them, and this was an exercise in giving in.

Her body aches for touch, for release, for her cunt to be licked and fucked, but that was not her lover’s plans. He ties a blindfold around her eyes, and lightly drags the falls of a flogger across her arse.

Maia gasps, anticipating he thudding sensations, but he makes her wait. Painfully, deprived of movement and sight, her breath becomes ragged.

As the blows landed on her back and thighs she breathes through the sensations, beginning to relish the tingling heat of her skin, anticipating each stinging strike as it made contact. Starting with stinging pain, then dulling into a delicious, giddying, ache that she wanted more of.

Her brain begins to drift away, and all of a sudden it was just sensation. Soft hands, hard spanks. Warm kisses, sharp teeth. Sweet caresses, and the sensation of the rope securing her wrists and ankles. The vibrations of the rope under her breasts and across her nipples, and around her belly drive her mad.

The trippy space of want, slight fear, trust and overwhelming lust entirely overcome her, and She is wet and dripping with desire, rolled on her side, her slit is slick and aching to be fucked. Unable to move, and blind to her lover’s intentions.

His hands slide around her body and Maia can feel his hardened cock pressing against the wetness of her cunt. She wriggles to try to push back, but the ropes have made it impossible for her to wiggle.

“Please” she implores.

Instead, she feels his tongue probing, licking at the wetness between her legs, his fingers teasingly dancing over the entrance to her cunt, tormenting her. He laps at her pussy until her legs tremble and her back arches against the ropes, two fingers driving into her, rhythmically, relentlessly.

“Please, please” she begs, her breath ragged.

He pulls away, and she feels jolted by the sudden loss of contact. She can hear him, she desires him, she needs him. She tries desperately to free herself but my ropes are secure, so she gives in, her breath coming in rough gasps of desire. she lies, powerless, waiting.

She hears the buzz of her vibrator, and her lover holds it onto the rope securing her waist. The vibrations travel the length of the rope, tingling, buzzing, and setting her body afire with lust.

As Maia edges closer and closer to orgasm, his cock presses against the outside of her cunt again. This time he is in no mood to tease, he bursts into her, filling her, he fucks hard, pulling her hips back against him, as she’s powerless to resist. A rolling orgasm takes over her body, and she gasps in sweet release.

Using the ropes as a handle, he thrusts into her. Sweat beads on her body as she clenches, and squirms against the ropes, powerless to stop his hard fucking. He swells inside her, his breaths getting quicker as he too, cums, Maia arches back against him, feeling him deep within her.

His hands become soft and kind again, and stroke her shoulders and back. He strokes her hair from her face and kisses her neck.

Maia sighs, higher than anything she’s ever experienced – a combination of beautiful ropes, lovingly tied, and the cruelty of sensation play combined to create a heady, addictive space that she sinks into, spent and exhausted.

She lets her mind wander, and wonders if she could possibly feel higher, only to be jolted back to the present as the ropes were untied, and the delicious sensations of rope dragging across her skin, vibrating across her belly, and the blood flowing freely back to her limbs, increased the sensations to those previously restricted parts of her body.

A desperate need to be held overcomes her, and she sinks dozily into her lover’s arms, he strokes her hair.

“What a good little slut you’ve been, Maia” he croons as he pulls her close against his chest.

The bubbles in the tub have subsided, leaving a shiny film over the warm water.

“Goddamn, what an amygdala hijack!”

Maia touches the slipperiness between her legs, barely having to probe at her clit to bring herself to orgasm.

Satisfied, Maia drained the tub and reached for a fluffy towel, as she towelled her body dry, she smiled to herself. Tomorrow night, her lover would join her again.

Polyamory, Your Sex Life

Things I Wish I Knew Before Being Polyamorous

Like most people discovering Polyamory or ethical non monogamy, my journey began with reading the polyamory “bible” The Ethical Slut by Dossie Eaton and Janet Hardy. It opened my eyes to a world that explained why I was so unhappy, unable, and unwilling to remain in a monogamous relationship.

I bounced into the lifestyle full steam ahead, but  there are some things that five years or so down the track I wish I’d known much earlier…

It opened my eyes to a world that explained why I was so unhappy, unable, and unwilling to remain in a monogamous relationship.

It’s not always easy being a good communicator (And you have to be a good communicator)

Good communication skills are the corner stone of any successful relationship in my opinion. And when it comes to multiple relationships, you have to communicate, communicate, communicate – infact that particular turn of phrase seems to be the calling card of the “polyam” community.

It isn’t always easy being a good communicator, and sometimes it’s easier to slip into negative habits, and poor communication skills.  My particular favourite toxic skill is apologise first to end an argument, or tell my partner “Fine, just do what you want” knowing damned well that I’m not going to get my needs met using that strategy.

Communication isn’t a series of strategies that make you right and the other person wrong, it’s a skill set that ensures both partners get heard. And like any skill, good communication needs practise and work. It needs self awareness and compassion, and it needs patience. Oh lordy does it need patience.

My particular favourite toxic skill is apologise first to end an argument, or tell my partner "Fine, just do what you want"

There’s more than one way to “do” polyamory

When I first began investigating non monogamy, the only type of on monogamy I’d heard of was swinging, and well, cheating.

Most communities and books are filled with diagrams and descriptions of non-monogamous formats that folks can pursue, triads, quads, v’s, poly-fidelity, non-monogamish… the list goes on.

What I’ve found over the years is that most partnerships (no matter how many people are in the partnership) will naturally find a rhythm that works for them, and the labels matter less.

What I've found over the years is that most partnerships (no matter how many people are in the partnership) will naturally find a rhythm that works for them, and the labels matter less.

Negative feelings are going to arise, and you have to work on them

I’ve experienced everything from jealousy, insecurity, body dysphoria, anxiety, depression, loneliness, and everything in between as part of my poly journey.

Sometimes, it doesn’t matter how often a partner tells me I’m beautiful or sexy, I still look in the mirror and don’t see what they’re seeing. Other times, I am absolutely green with envy, and on occasions, I’m lonely when I’m the only one who doesn’t have someone to cuddle for an evening. Shitty emotions happen.

I found the only way out of the  rut was to sit with the feelings and really work on them. Being self aware and having those uncomfortable conversations with myself helped as well.

And again, communication, communication, communication.

Sometimes you’re just lonely, and that sucks

There are times when all of my partners are out on dates with their other partners  and I’m the lonesome ownsome one. Loneliness when you’re surrounded by lovers is a tricky pill to swallow.

I’m working on really valuing my alone time, and using it to do productive things like crafting and baking, and writing self reflective articles like this one.

New Relationship Energy is a heady cocktail Old Relationship Energy is beautiful

“Oh look at Chloe, changing herself for a boy” were the teasing words a friend uttered when I was gushing about a newfound geeky interest I’d discovered. That new relationship energy where I find myself inspired to paint and write poems, start projects and generally be in love with the world is trippy and fun and delicious.

Settling into a comfortable love with a partner is delightful. Knowing that they’re just there for you, and that you don’t have to be “on” all the time to impress them, maybe they’ve seen your ugly bits and accepted them and told you your beautiful because of them. While it’s not the trippy cocktail of new relationship energy, there is something equally beautiful about old relationship energy. I love it.

Not all of your metamours are going to like you…

I didn’t realise how confronting it would be to not be liked by a metamour. I generally get along with most people, and consider myself to be reasonably likeable, and more to the point, I genuinely liked them. But just as the old advice goes, you can’t be liked by everyone. I’ve had to settle for awkward toleration of my presence in my metamour’s life and that is just what it is.

you can't be liked by everyone.

It’s okay to swing between monogamy and polyamory, noone gets to make the rules but you

I actually used to feel guilty when I needed some monogamous time. Now I realise that it’s how I refill my energy and focus and it’s how I love. The guilt has been ditched and I embrace that relationships come in all shapes and sizes.

Now I realise that it's how I refill my energy and focus and it's how I love


Talking About Consent

What it means to give consent is integral to discussions on sexual assault and healthy sexuality, and far more education on consent is needed to create a positive social change.

Everyone has the right to sexuality without violence and coercion, and much contemporary discourse on consent is beginning to focus on enthusiastic consent as a positive step.

What is Sexual Consent?

Consent and open communication should be the basis for every sexual encounter and every personal interaction. Sexual consent means that both partners want to participate in a sexual activity. Consent to one activity does not obligate you to consent to other activities, just as consent on one occasion does not obligate you to consent on other occasions. It’s crucial to understand that consent can be revoked at any time if you do not want to go any further, or if you change your mind.

Project Respect offers this excellent definition on consent:

Consent is a mutual verbal, physical, and emotional agreement that happens without manipulation, threats, or head games. Consent is a whole body experience. It is not just a verbal “yes” or “no” – it involves paying attention to your partner as a person and checking in with physical and emotional cues as well. Consent is also mutual (both people have to agree) and must be continuous. You can stop at any time, you can change your mind, and just because you said yes to one thing doesn’t mean you have consented to anything else.

Enthusiastic Consent

While previously many people have thought about consent as the absence of saying ‘no’, this emphasis is outdated – and, many experts suggest, dangerous. When we define consent in terms of someone’s ability to say no, we set parameters that do not include people who are unable to say no for whatever reason

Their inability to say no is not the same as consent. Which is why many are turning towards the idea of enthusiastic consent – which means getting a positive and definitive YES as opposed to a no – as a more sex-positive, inclusive and healthy definition.

The idea of enthusiastic consent advocates for enthusiastic agreement to sexual activity, as opposed to passive agreement. Popularised by the book Yes Means Yes! the concept also requires that consent be given to each sexual activity, meaning that saying yes to one thing does not mean consent to another.

The idea is to be respectful of your own physical and sexual autonomy, as well as your partner’s. It highlights that an unsure or hesitant yes is not enthusiastic consent, and needs to be considered.

A good acronym to remember is FRIES (because fries are delicious and so is good, enthusiastic consent)
Good Consent is FREELY given
It is not coerced, it is not manipulated.
Good consent is REVERSIBLE
It can be taken back at any time.
Good Consent is INFORMED
All parties should know exactly what they’re consenting to.
Good Consent is ENTHUSIASTIC
YES means yes, maybe means no. No definitely means no.
Good Consent is SPECIFIC
Just because one act has been consented for doesn’t mean that all other acts are automatically okay.

Expanding the Definitions of Consent

There are situations that can’t necessarily offer enthusiastic consent, for example in sex work.

In these cases, I believe it’s important to recognise what consent looks like in terms of negotiation, transaction, and the terms of consent.

As an example, purchasing the services of a sex worker purchases you their time on their terms  but not a right to their body – that is something that they can negotiate, consent, and withdraw consent if they choose.

This also brings up the discussion of privilege, and how certain situations might be appearing to be consensual but are in actual fact exploitative.

We need to have these conversations.

What are your thoughts on enthusiastic consent? Do you think it offers a positive step forward for healthy sexuality?

Health, Your Sex Life

Why Do Masochists Crave Pain: The Brain Science Of BDSM

It all comes down to how your brain perceives pain, and what happens as pain is inflictedWhips And Chains Feel Good In My Brain

Have you ever wondered why some people get incredibly turned on by pain? Why  you might be drawn to slightly kinky play like being tied up?  What is this  thing called subspace and the altered state of consciousness that’s spoken of in BDSM circles.

It all comes down to how your brain perceives pain, and what happens as pain is inflicted. This is a quick look into your brain on pain, and why it can feel good.

Disclaimer: This article isn’t meant to be a primer in BDSM and Kink  – it’s an explanation of why pain can feel like pleasure.

The brain perceives the painful sensation in the somatosensory cortex, which tells the brain where the pain is being felt...back, thighs, butt... 

Nociceptors: The Pain Receptor

nociceptor is a pain receptor that responds to pain and sends signals along the spinal cord and to the brain.  Nociceptor comes from the word Nocer which means to injure or to hurt in latin.

These little receptors help keep us safe and tell the brain when the body is injured or hurt.

The brain perceives the painful sensation in the somatosensory cortex, which tells the brain where the pain is being felt…back, thighs, butt…

Then the insula, a little chunk of grey matter in the brain helps control the emotional response to the pain, and in BDSM this is where some of the magic happens

These feel good hormones can literally promote sexual arousal when they flood the brain enough.

Endorphins To The Rescue

The body’s natural response pain is to release some really nice feel good hormones called endorphins; in this case oxytocin (the hormone of love), melatonin (the sleepy hormone)and serotonin (the happy hormone). These feel good hormones can literally promote sexual arousal when they flood the brain enough.  Along with the happy hormones the brain also releases adrenaline in the form of norepinephrin and epinephrin; these hormones trigger the fight or flight response.

So when prick yourself with a pin, your body yellls “Ouch” and you remove the pin as soon as possible. When it comes to BDSM, the pleasure and pain response is just the same.

A gradual build up from light stimuli (a thuddy flogger) to heavier pain (harder spanking, whips and canes)  (safe, sane consensual only please)

Slowly Please…

A gradual build up from light stimuli (a thuddy flogger) to heavier pain (harder spanking, whips and canes)  (safe, sane consensual only please) will flood the brain with feel good hormones, and that light, sleepy, aroused, drifty sky-high feeling known as subspace takes over and whomever is receiving the pain can actually perceive it as pleasure. A LOT of pleasure.

The fight or flight response is often short lived, and once it passes, it produces another rush and flood of endorphins, further creating an altered state of consciousness. Basically, it feels really good.



Health, Your Sex Life

In Defence Of The Condom

When used correctly, condoms are 98% effective. You need to be able to put it on without damaging it, or creating risk of the condom popping (yeah, that can happen) or tearing.

The poor old condoms cop a bad rap (sorry, not sorry) as far as contraception goes. Notorious for being sex interrupters, sensation dullers, and having a nasty habit of breaking, not fitting, or basically being an epic pain in the ass… It’s no wonder that folks avoid using them.

The thing is – most of the negative stuff that condoms are lambasted for is totally avoidable.

For something as simple as a latex sheath that goes over a penis, there’s a lot that can go wrong with the humble condom. Even in my own personal experience, I’ve had condom breakages and malfunctions due to “user error”

So let’s start with the important stuff, how can we best ensure that condoms do what they’re meant to do; that is, prevent bodily fluid contact, the spread of STIs and well, unwanted pregnancy.

When used correctly, condoms are 98% effective. You need to be able to put it on without damaging it, or creating risk of the condom popping (yeah, that can happen) or tearing.

Check The Date And Use The Right Size

Effective use means using the right size condom for the penis it’s going on. Making sure it’s IN DATE!! (Can’t believe how many people don’t check this) and applying it properly.

Don’t store your condoms in hot cars. Hot conditions destroy condoms. And destroyed condoms don’t work. A couple of drops of lube on the inside of the condom is a game changer as far as sensation is concerned

Use Lube

Lube is basically essential for effective condom use, and can improve sensation, and prevent breakage; however it’s not that simple. Latex condoms and oil based lube do NOT go together. If you’re using a latex love glove, make sure your lube is water based.

A couple of drops of lube on the inside of the condom is a game changer as far as sensation is concerned. Or so I’m told, I don’t have a penis, and really I can only speak from the other side of the discussion so to speak. And frankly, I am a lube advocate. #allthelube  

Put it on properly

Applying the little sucker takes practise, and frankly it’s a bit hard to learn how to put a condom onto a cucumber or banana – because as phallic as they are, they’re nothing like a real penis. If you have your own penis, practise practise practise. If you don’t have access to your own penis, it doesn’t hurt to ask your partner nicely 😉

Pinch the top, squeeze air out and leave space for the cum to end up in the condom. I’ve seen folks somehow manage to create a little air balloon at the end of their condom, only to have it “pop” at an awkward sexy moment, negating any safety or contraceptive benefits of the damned thing. There isn’t much less sexy than a burst, broken, condom; let me assure you.

Roll the condom down the whole length of the penis. This is NOT a time to use your teeth. Structural integrity is key here!

I’m informed by several penis possessing folks that mentioning teeth and dicks in the same sentence doesn’t really need a warning, but you never know who hasn’t been told, or what others are into.

Lube and the right size can solve most sensation issues. But let’s be honest, they ARE a barrier between skin contact, so there are going to be sensation differences.

Take it off properly

It should go without saying that the contents of the condom, once you’re finished with whatever sexy act you’re engaging in, is the exact stuff that you don’t want coming into contact with your partner.

Make sure your penis is completely out of your partners body. And move to a position where you’re not going to splash your fluids all over them.

Tie it up and dispose of your condom in the bin. Toilets aren’t a condom disposal receptacle. They get stuck. They clog drains. It isn’t sexy. Also, think of the sea turtles…

Condom Q&A

Do Condoms Expire?

Yes, absolutely every condom is printed with an expiration date on it’s packaging. You should NEVER use an expired condom.

Do Condoms Prevent STIs?

Condoms help  greatly reduce the risk of contracting STIs the only true way avoid contracting an STI is abstinence.

Do condoms have sizes?

Yep, and choosing the correct size for you means you can use the condom correctly, more comfortably, and with more pleasure.

Do Condoms Cause Thrush?

They can…Anything that upsets the delicate genital chemistry of the vulva can cause irritation and vaginitis including thrush.. A more common cause of irritation can be the lubricant that condoms are often packaged with. Sometimes, you might experience an allergic reaction to your partner’s semen, or even latex. The good news is that vaginitis is usually easily treated. And you should see your health care provider for advice.

If you're embarrassed to buy them in supermarkets etc (And you totally shouldn't be, rock on with your safer sex awesomeness) you can order condoms online.

Other things you probably should know

There are lots of brands and varieties of condoms. Try a bunch and work out what works for you and your body. Try the flavours, try the sensations, try the sizes!

Some people are allergic to latex. Latex allergies and sexy time are not cute, and you should definitely communicate.

If you’re embarrassed to buy them in supermarkets etc (And you totally shouldn’t be, rock on with your safer sex awesomeness) you can order condoms online.

No, you should absolutely NOT use two condoms at the same time. More is not more in this particular scenario.

And as a final thought, condoms create a barrier and need to be changed between each sex act. So if you’re switching from oral to vaginal or anal, a new condom is needed, even if you haven’t cum.


Do I Have A Sexually Transmitted Infection?

In Millennials, Sexually Transmitted Infections, or STIs are on the rise.Our Generation

In Millennials, Sexually Transmitted Infections, or STIs are on the rise.

We are a generation that has been educated on the benefits of safer sex, have access to more options than any of our previous generations, yet we seem to be going backwards in terms of our sexual health.

So it’s time to ditch the stigma of STIs – you wouldn’t be embarrassed by having a cold, so there’s no need to be embarrassed or secretive about having an STI. Get a check up, get it treated, and cure or manage it.

But the only way you can know if you have an STI is if you have a simple test with your doctor.


Chlamydia is currently one of the most common STIs, and can cause serious and permanent damage to a woman’s reproductive system that can make it difficult or impossible to get pregnant. One of the most dangerous things about chlamydia is that it often has no symptoms, meaning carriers can have the infection for weeks without knowing.

Chlamydia can be transmitted through oral, vaginal or anal sex, and can be passed on even when an infected person shows no symptoms. Untreated chlamydia can spread to the uterus and fallopian tubes, causing pelvic inflammatory disease.

If symptoms do present, they may include an abnormal discharge, a burning sensation when peeing, and occasionally in men, pain and swelling in one or both testicles.

Testing for chlamydia is as simple as providing a urine or swap sample at your doctor. Treatment includes a course of antibiotics, though it’s important to be retested for chlamydia after treatment since reinfection can occur.

The only way to prevent the contraction of chlamydia during sex is to use condoms.

Human papillomavirus (HPV) is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections

Genital HPV Infection

Human papillomavirus (HPV) is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections, and is so common that doctors estimate nearly all sexually active women will get it at some point in their lives. HPV can be transmitted through oral, vaginal or anal sex, and can be passed on even when an infected person shows no symptoms.

There are many different types of HPV. In most cases the virus goes away on its own and doesn’t cause any health issues. However, when HPV does not go away, it has the potential to lead to problems like genital warts and cancers of the cervix, vulva, vagina, penis or anus, which can take decades to develop after infection. It has also been linked to cancer in the back of the throat, base of the tongue and tonsils.

Most people with HPV do not know they are infected and never develop symptoms. Some people find out they have HPV if they develop genital warts, and some women may discover they have HPV if the results of a cervical cancer-screening test show abnormal cells. This is why Pap smears are so important for the sexual health of women.

There is now a vaccine to protect against HPV that is available for children aged around 12 years, and ‘catch-up’ vaccines for women aged up to 26 and men aged up to 21.

For women who fall outside the age of vaccination, using condoms can lower your chances of contracting HPV, although it’s important to note that HPV can affect areas that are not covered by condoms, so condoms cannot provide full protection against the virus.

Genital herpes is estimated to affect around 1 in every 6 people, and can be transmitted through can be transmitted through oral, vaginal or anal sex.

Genital Herpes

Genital herpes is estimated to affect around 1 in every 6 people, and can be transmitted through can be transmitted through oral, vaginal or anal sex. The fluids found in a herpes sore carry the virus, and contact with those fluids can cause infection. It is possible to contract herpes from an infected partner who does not have a visible sore (or who may not even know are infected) because the virus can be released through your skin and spread the infection to your sex partner.

Most people who have herpes have no, or very mild symptoms. Mild symptoms can be mistaken for another skin condition, such as a pimple or ingrown hair. Genital herpes sores usually appear as one or more blisters on or around the genitals, rectum or mouth. Herpes blisters can break and leave painful sores that may take weeks to heal, and may be accompanied by flu-like symptoms like body aches or swollen glands.

More often than not a doctor can diagnose herpes simply by looking at symptoms, although they may also take samples for testing. Though there is no cure for herpes, there are medicines that can prevent or shorten outbreaks, and make it less likely for the virus onto sexual partners.

While condoms can aid in the protection against this infection, outbreaks can also occur in areas that are not covered by a condom, meaning condoms may not fully protect you from getting herpes.

Like many other STIs, it often presents no symptoms – and mild symptoms can be mistaken for bladder or vaginal infections


Gonorrhea can be transmitted via anal, vaginal, or oral sex with someone who has the infection. Like many other STIs, it often presents no symptoms – and mild symptoms can be mistaken for bladder or vaginal infections. When symptoms do present, they can include an unusual discharge and a burning sensation in both women and men. Additional symptoms can include vaginal bleeding between periods for women, and painful or swollen testicles for men.

Untreated gonorrhea can cause serious and permanent health problems in both women and men, including pelvic inflammatory disease and infertility.

The testing and diagnosis of gonorrhea is relatively simple. Urine can be tested for the infection, although in some cases swabs may be required. Gonorrhea can be cured with the right treatment, although some drug-resistant strains of gonorrhea can be more difficult to treat. If symptoms persist for more than a few days after receiving medical treatment, it’s important to go back to the doctor to be checked again.

To protect yourself against gonorrhea, use condoms correctly every time you have sex.

Syphilis is often referred to by doctors as a great imitator, because it can present a range of possible symptoms – many of which look like symptoms for other infections.


Syphilis is often referred to by doctors as a great imitator, because it can present a range of possible symptoms – many of which look like symptoms for other infections. The painless syphilis sores that can present themselves after first being infected can be confused with ingrown hairs or other seemingly harmless bumps, which is part of what makes this infection so dangerous.

When not treated, syphilis can cause long-term complications, and the symptoms can be divided into three stages. The disease can be contracted by direct contact with a syphilis sore during vaginal, oral or anal sex.

Because syphilis sores can be hidden in the vagina, anus, under the foreskin of the penis, or in the mouth, it may not be obvious that a sex partner has syphilis.

The diagnosis of syphilis is simple. Most of the time doctors will test blood samples, though sometimes testing the fluid from a syphilis sore may be required. Syphilis can be cured with the right antibiotics.

Condoms are the only way to protect against the contraction of syphilis.

Do Yourself A Favour And Get A Simple Sexual Health Check

Remember, you are in control of your body. Always protect yourself with condoms when you’re engaging in sex outside of a mutually monogamous sexual relationship, and get regular routine STI checkups and pap smears.



Family Planning Is A Human Right

Access to family planning resources and information should be the simplest, most accessible part of healthcare for women. And yet, in developing countries it is a huge factor in women’s early death. In developed countries, it’s an issue that still kills women.

In this article, we’re going to discuss the impact that family planning has on women and their communities in developing countries, and what we can do as individuals to make positive difference. In follow up articles, we’ll examine how limiting women’s access to safe abortion, contraception and education is a violation of human rights, and discuss how women’s health is a public health issue.

47,000 Women Die From Unsafe Abortions Yearly.

For over 214  million women in developing countries, even the simplest and most readily usable safer sex tools aren’t an option.

This is a youth issue, it’s a women’s issue, it’s a public health issue, it’s an inter-generational issue that has long lasting health and economic consequences, and it’s one that we desperately need to talk about. In 2016, 44 in 1000 girls aged 15-19 had unplanned pregnancies in developing countries. With these pregnancies representing large risk to the women’s and children’s lives and health.

3 million of these girls will access unsafe abortions each year. And some 47,000 women die from unsafe abortions world wide each year. As for abortion, we have overwhelming evidence that making abortion illegal does not stop women from seeking and accessing it, but it does kill women.

Banning Abortion Doesn’t Work

I’ve personally had this discussion with people who sit comfortably in proverbial ivory towers, making suggestions that it isn’t their problem, that unsafe sex is the issue, or that the issue of abortion is cut and dry: don’t allow it.

This simplistic view of things is neither helpful nor accurate; unsafe sex is an issue but it’s not the causative issue. Lack of family planning resources, education, and options available to women and their families is a more accurate determinant.

As for abortion, we have overwhelming evidence that making abortion illegal does not stop women from seeking and accessing it, but it does kill women. If we are going to address women’s health in a pragmatic and sensible way, then access to safe, legal, abortion is the option that saves lives and reduces abortions. Science and stats are fun. This issue is simply fixed, but not easily fixed.

A Simple, But Not Easy Issue

This issue is simply fixed, but not easily fixed.

Family planning is a multifaceted gemstone of an issue, and it needs to be approached from several angles, at different stages throughout an individual’s life.

We know we can’t stop people having sex, and frankly why would we want to. But we can empower them with education and put them in the driver’s seat of their fertility. We can teach about consent, and rape. We can gently nudge cultures to see sex as a positive act between two individuals who are both willing and consenting.

We can train health care professionals and have conversations about sexual health, STIs, birth control (ugh, I hate that term… let’s run with contraception) and we can influence our governments to provide funds for family planning programs.

The World Health Organisation Guidelines

In 2011, WHO published guidelines to address the issue of child and teen pregnancy, and it’s long lasting social, health, and economic consequences with 6 main over-reaching guidelines.:

  • Reducing marriage before the age of 18 years. Estimates suggest a 10% reduction in child marriage could contribute to a 70% reduction in a country`s maternal mortality rate (16).
  • Creating understanding and support to reduce pregnancy before the age of 20 years.
  • Increasing the use of contraception by adolescents at risk of unintended pregnancy. If this need was to be met, 2.1 million unplanned births, 3.2 million abortions, and 5600 maternal deaths could be averted each year 
  • Reducing coerced sex among adolescents.
  • Reducing unsafe abortion among adolescents.
  • Increasing use of skilled antenatal, childbirth and postnatal care among adolescents

Access to contraception and family planning education is key to turning this proverbial ship around and improving the lives of women and their communities in developing countries.

Family Planning Saves Lives, Builds Communities

So what is Family Planning? It’s the access, means, knowledge and resources to decide if and when you’re going to have children.

This includes understanding hormonal contraceptives, implants, surgical methods, fertility treatment, and barrier methods such as male and female condoms. It includes sex education and discussion about fertility, STIs and pregnancy and childbirth.It includes talking about concepts like rape, coercion and consent.

These conversations need to be had with religious, cultural, and economic sensitivity, as the barriers to family planning are what make this issue a simple, but not easy challenge.

According to UNFPA, if the unmet needs of family planning were met in developing countries, some 76,000 lives would be saved. That number is astounding.

Family Planning Empowers Women

The follow on consequences of Family Planning means that women are empowered. They have the potential to complete their education, better economic security, and participate autonomous members of their households and communities. This infographic demonstrates the amazing impact that education, resources, autonomy has for women, their communities, and public health at large.

The UNFPA is doing amazing work along side the Bill and Melinda Gates foundation to deliver family planning resources to developing countries and it’s having some incredible success.

In 2017, the UNFPA Program:

  • Averted 13.5 million unintended pregnancies
  • Averted 4.1 million unsafe abortions
  • Averted 32,000 maternal deaths
  • Saved $819 million in health-care costs

But there is a long way to go, with funding, resources, and government backing being a barrier to achieving true success for women and their communities.

How You Can Help

Here at, I love to leave my work with actionable things the individual can do. So if you want to make a difference to access to family planning, here are some steps you can take:

  • Share this article!
  • Share the UNFPA link to family planning
  • Talk about family planning issues, and contraception and remove the stigma around discussions about public health.
  • Donate to UNFPA