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March 2014

Education, Featured

Not Your Usual Sex Apps

You know how in almost every aspect of life nowadays you can pretty much guarantee there’s an app to make something better, easier, or faster? Well, the same can be said for your sex life. In theory, at least.

Yes, there are some weird ones, and some lame ones, and a lot of position-of-the-day and roll-the-dice-to-kiss-your-partner-here-or-there ones, but there are also some pretty interesting sex apps available for those looking to integrate their smartphones into their every waking moment. Like these three.

Sex Drive: iTunes $1.99

Sex Drive is a premium app designed to deliver tested binaural tones to helps promote a healthy sex life. Binary tones or beats are sound artifacts the brain produces when two tones of slightly different frequencies are played, one into each ear, using headphones. The idea is that your brain syncs with the frequency, the sexual part of your brain gets excited, and you increase your sex drive.

If you need a reputable endorsement, user Stickyboy Johnson said of this app:

“I had an orgasm within 5 minutes and jizzed so much. More than ever before at least 4 table spoons. Plus the whole time I felt all tingly inside!”

Um… don’t take Stickyboy’s word for it. This app is actually highly reviewed around the web, making it a great option to check out if you don’t mind spending a couple of bucks.

Bed Buddy – Sex Calculator: Google Play FREE

Yeah, this is actually a thing. If you really have a competitive side and you don’t feel insecure about your sexual performance, this app is designed to rate how you measure up in the sack. Using what I can only assume is a very powerful and scientifically designed algorithm, Bed Buddy tracks movement and sound to measure your activity, and offers detailed intensity scores and graphs (because science!) as well as sex tips. Am I the only one who finds this a bit creepy?

Somehow this beauty has a 4.3 rating in Google Play’s app store. Current user reviews include “nice way to have sex life recorded” and “what an inspired app!” Yeah.

Sexy Vibes Vibrator Remote Random Chat: Google Play FREE

Self-described as part chat room, part sex toy, and part speed-dating service, Sexy Vibes allows users to connect with people they know, and people they don’t, to send and receive vibrations, or to play solo with vibration patterns ranging from the intense ‘washing machine’ to the gentler ‘fluffy bunny’.

There are some super-creepy user reviews for this one, but it does get an average rating of 3.8. Be warned though – user Alfonso Watakungsi only gave this app 1-star, saying “Bad! This app makes my gal cum in seconds as a result my phone got soaked in her juices thus damaging my fon! I woukd recon protecting ur fin with a ziplock bag first b4 using it as vibrator”. Ummm… thanks for the tip, Alfonso!

Come across a useful, weird or wonderful sex app you think we need to check out? Let us know in the comments below!

Orgasms, Your Body

G Marks the Spot

Officially called the Gräfenbreg spot, but more commonly known by its nickname, the g-spot is an erogenous zone inside the vagina, typically found between one to three inches inside on the front anterior wall. Though it has been studied since the 1940s and disagreement persists over it existing at all, women around the world sing its praises, claiming it can attribute to powerful orgasms and female ejaculation.

Where is the G-Spot?

If you haven’t found your g-spot before, experts suggest that locating it can take some patience. Most g-spot enthusiasts say the best way to find it is to lay on your back with your legs spread and knees slightly bent, and insert two fingers inside the vagina (with your palm facing up), pressing your fingertips against the vaginal wall while looking for a spongy, slightly puckered or rigid area, similar to the roof of your mouth.

Like the vulva, the g-spot is said to swell when you’re aroused, so look for it when you’re already in the mood.

G-Spot Toys

Ready to have some fun enjoying your g-spot? Here are some of the most popular g-spot-focused toys currently available for sexual adventurers.

Mona 2 by Lelo

Lelo’s Mona 2 is specifically designed for g-spot stimulation thanks to its contoured form and variable vibration settings. This vibe is also ‘full-figured’ for fuller internal sensation. Check out Lelo’s video for more information.

Form 6 by Jimmyjane

Jimmyjane’s Form 6 waterproof rechargeable vibrator features two powerful motors in each end – either of which can be used for clitoral or internal stimulation. The curved end is designed to be particularly good for g-spot stimulation. Check out the video for a helpful demonstration.

G-Ki by Je Joue

Je Joue’s G-Ki recognizes that every woman’s body is unique, which is why they’re created a uniquely adjustable and innovative g-spot vibrator that can be curved into the perfect position for you. This vibrator can also be used as a dual-action toy, to provide g-spot and clitoral stimulation simultaneously. To see just how flexible it is, check out the video demonstration below.

Delight by Fun Factory

Fun Factory’s Delight features truly unique curves and intuitive control, along with 8 vibration intensities and 3 programs for clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Check out the video for more information and to see it in action.

Do you have a favorite g-spot locator technique or can you recommend a g-spot toy? Let us know in the comments!

Orgasms, Sex Toys 101

Spice it Up: Toys for Couples

While the sex toy industry has traditionally been focused on solo play and pleasure, a more recent move towards shared stimulation has prompted the release of a wide range of toys, vibes and other pleasure pieces for couples – designed to provide mutual satisfaction before or during lovemaking.

Celebrated manufacturer Lelo has been instrumental in this shift, leading the way with their revolutionary and very seductive line of toys developed especially for couples.

Here are five of the most popular couples toys, brought to you buy the brand associated with popularizing techno-play in the bedroom.

Lelo IDA

Designed by Lelo especially for couples and offering 8 stimulation modes and innovation SenseMotion technology, IDA is a premium couple’s massager – and the first to offer vibration and rotation in one amazing toy. Worn by women when making love and offering thrilling rotations and sensations for both partners, IDA comes with its own remote control and is available in deep rose, cerise and black.

Passionate Jade: $249

Lelo Lyla 2

Lyla 2 is a premium remote control massager – designed to be adored by couples and worn internally, or enjoyed externally. Offering eight different vibration patterns, innovative waterproof design and hours of intense fun for couples who like to tease; Lyla 2 is available in cerise, black and deep rose.

Be Spunky: $154.95

Lelo Tiani 2

Featuring SenseMotion technology, interchangeable attachments for varied stimulation and wireless remote control with 8 vibration modes, Tiani 2 is available in deep rose, cerise and black. Worn by women when making love, the smooth silicon design provides powerful vibrations for the clitoris while allowing ample room for partner penetration.

Passionate Jade: $199.95

Lelo Tara

Lelo’s Tara couple’s massager is a variation on the popular IDA, featuring incredible vibrating and rotating stimulation for both partners during lovemaking. Offering six modes and a completely waterproof design, Tara is available in midnight blue, deep rose and black.

Be Spunky: $189.00

Lelo Oden 2

Dubbed the world’s most advanced couple’s ring, Lelo’s Oden 2 is designed to be worn by men when making love to provide shared pleasure for both partners. Offering SenseMotion technology, interchangeable closed and open-ring attachments and a convenient remote control, Oden 2 is available in sleek black and is a wonderful toy for men looking to increase their stamina, and women seeking intense clitoral stimulation.

Passionate Jade: $209.95

Do you have a favorite toy designed specifically for couple play? Share your shout outs in the comments below!


Bright Desires

Body Positive Activism, Featured, Safer Sex

How to Be an Ethical Porn Consumer

If you enjoy watching erotica or pornography online, you’re not alone. The consumption of porn has exploded thanks to its availability on the web – and even more so now that anyone can have a sneaky wank practically anywhere with porn access via smartphone. The question is; how many of us are thinking about where our porn is coming from, and if it’s being produced in an ethical way?

If you want to be an ethical porn consumer – meaning you try only to watch porn that has been ethically produced, and consume it in an ethical way – check out our top three tips below.

Choose Feminist or Woman Friendly Porn

There are many producers who focus on real pleasure, consenting artists, and woman friendly erotic film. It’s gleaned the title of “feminist porn” because there is no exploitation, and the films are produced to not only be hot as hell, but less degrading for the actors in them. Choose a producer who fits this bill!

Pay for Your Pleasure

Pay for the porn you watch. ‘Tube’ sites that feature bootlegged and pirated porn, effectively stolen from other sites, are hurting the industry. When you watch these clips, the people who act in them are essentially getting you off for free. Many of these performers are only in the adult industry to make a living, so when you watch their movies for free; you’re basically taking money out of their pockets.

Support Safer Sex

Though it may not be easy, try to watch porn where actors are wearing condoms. The vast majority of produces don’t insist on condoms, though many enforce HIV and STI testing monthly, but there are some production companies out there who do demand safer sex, such as California-based Wicked Pictures.

Look for Production Credits

If you’re worried about the treatment of adult stars when the cameras are turned off, watch videos where it’s clear who is producing it, and where the company name is clearly identifiable and researchable on the web. Those companies who treat their actors well and work in an ethical manner are proud of their efforts to do so, and are more likely to have their brand name front and center. If porn has no production credits, there may be a reason for it.

Know of an ethical pornography producer worth a mention here? Let us know in the comments below.


Bright Desires

Photo credit: Nobilior


Previously Banned Erotic Books to Wet Your Whistle

Erotica may be flying off the shelves of real-world bookstores and flooding the digital shelves of Kindles and Nooks around the globe nowadays, but it hasn’t always been so easy to get your mitts on erotica. In fact, erotic novels have been subject to censorship for centuries – many only being granted printing permission within the last few decades.

Want to mix it up and add a little classic, and previously banned, erotica to your reading list? Check out these four excerpts to get a feel for which book might tickle your fancy.

Lady Chatterley’s Lover by D.H. Lawrence

First published in 1928 but then banned until the 1960s, Lady Chatterley’s lover is perhaps one of the best-known banned erotic books, having gained infamy for its graphic narratives on adulterous sex and its inclusion of unprintable words. It was the subject of obscenity trials in Britain, Japan, and India, and it was banned in the United States, Canada and Australia.

She lay quite still, in a sort of sleep, in a sort of dream. Then she quivered as she felt his hand groping softly, yet with queer thwarted clumsiness, among her clothing. Yet the hand knew, too, how to unclothe her where it wanted. He drew down the thin silk sheath, slowly, carefully, right down and over her feet. Then with a quiver of exquisite pleasure he touched the warm soft body, and touched her navel for a moment in a kiss. And he had to come in to her at once, to enter the peace on earth of her soft, quiescent body. It was the moment of pure peace for him, the entry into the body of the woman.

Fanny Hill by John Cleland

Penned from a debtor’s prison in 1748, John Cleland was re-arrested within a year for his tale of debauchery and sexual adventure, written from former prostitute Fanny Hill’s point of view.

I saw, with wonder and surprise, what? not the play-thing of a boy, not the weapon of a man, but a maypole of so enormous a standard, that had proportions been observ’d, it must have belong’d to a young giant. Its prodigious size made me shrink again; yet I could not, without pleasure, behold, and even ventur’d to feel, such a length, such a breadth of animated ivory! perfectly well turn’d and fashion’d, the proud stiffness of which distended its skin, whose smooth polish and velvet softness might vie with that of the most delicate of our sex, and whose exquisite whiteness was not a little set off by a sprout of black curling hair round the root, through the jetty sprigs of which the fair skin shew’d as in a fine evening you may have remark’d the clear light ether through the branchwork of distant trees over-topping the summit of a hill: then the broad and blueish-cast incarnate of the head, and blue serpentines of its veins, altogether compos’d the most striking assemblage of figure and colours in nature. In short, it stood an object of terror and delight.

The Tropic of Cancer by Henry Miller

Miller’s The Tropic of Cancer garnered more than 60 obscenity lawsuits in the USA alone after its American publication in 1961. Chronicling the sexual adventures of a young American writer in Paris during the height of 1930s bohemian culture, the book’s graphic descriptions of sexual adventures with whores, pimps and artists caused quite a fuss at the time.

As she stood up to dry herself, still talking to me pleasantly, suddenly she dropped the towel and, advancing toward me leisurely, she commenced rubbing her pussy affectionately, stroking it with her two hands, caressing it, patting it, patting it. There was something about her eloquence at that moment and the way she thrust that rose­bush under my nose which remains unforgettable; she spoke of it as if it were some extraneous object which she had acquired at great cost, an object whose value had increased with time and which now she prized above everything in the world. Her words imbued it with a peculiar fragrance; it was no longer just her private organ, but a treasure, a magic, potent treasure, a God-given thing – and none the less so because she traded it day in and day out for a few pieces of silver. As she flung herself on the bed, with legs spread wide apart, she cupped it with her hands and stroked it some more, murmuring all the while in that hoarse, cracked voice of hers that it was good, beautiful, a treasure, a little treasure. And it was good, that little pussy of hers!

Ulysses by James Joyce

First published in serial form from 1918 – 1920, Joyce’s Ulysses ran into trouble with the printing of its 13th chapter due to its use of profanity and description of masturbation. It was banned for more than a decade in the USA.

Ravished over her I lay, full lips full open, kissed her mouth. Yum. Softly she gave me in my mouth the seedcake warm and chewed. Mawkish pulp her mouth had mumbled sweetsour of her spittle. Joy: I ate it: joy. Young life, her lips that gave me pouting. Soft warm sticky gumjelly lips. Flowers her eyes were, take me, willing eyes. Pebbles fell. She lay still. A goat. No-one. High on Ben Howth rhododendrons a nannygoat walking surefooted, dropping currants. Screened under ferns she laughed warmfolded. Wildly I lay on her, kissed her: eyes, her lips, her stretched neck beating, woman’s breasts full in her blouse of nun’s veiling, fat nipples upright. Hot I tongued her. She kissed me. I was kissed. All yielding she tossed my hair. Kissed, she kissed me.

What’s your favourite previously-banned or old-school erotic novel?