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April 2014

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Body-Love Heroes

It’s no secret that the constant bombardment of airbrushed images and social body-shaming ideals can negatively impact the ways in which we think about, and accept, our bodies.

Thankfully, there are some beautiful, strong women out there in Medialand, unwilling to confirm and more than happy to speak out about body-love.

Lady Gaga

Say what you will about her music, but Lady Gaga is a body image hero who isn’t afraid to call the media out on their body-shaming bullshit. After a string of websites and magazines slammed the starlet for putting on a few pounds, Mother Monster hit back at critics by baring her body in photographs posted on her own website and sharing her personal struggle with bulimia. She invited her fans to join a “body revolution”.

“Be brave and celebrate with us your ‘perceived flaws,’ as society tells us. May we make our flaws famous, and thus redefine the heinous.”

Lena Dunham

Girls star Lena Dunham’s openness about her body – on screen and in speaking to the media – has solidified her place in many women’s minds a body-love hero. She’s talked about her ‘Zen body philosophy’, encouraging all women to love their body, regardless of its size of shape.

“I think about my body as a tool to do the stuff I need to do, but not the be all and end all of my existence. Which sounds like I spent a week at a meditation retreat, but it’s genuinely how I feel.”

Lily Allen

Known for being a straight shooter, Lily Allen doesn’t pull any punches when it comes to acknowledging the pressure put on women to fit beauty and body ideals. She drew some negative attention recently, telling Elle magazine:

“Of course I’d rather look like Kate Moss than look like myself. I wish I didn’t feel like that, and I think the reason we feel like that is because of the imagery we’re fed all the time.”

However, many fans are celebrating her willingness to go on the record with her insecurities. Her music video for Hard Out Here highlights the ridiculous pressures put on women to erase any sign left on their bodies that they’ve given birth, or conform to body size standards.

Beyonce

Beyonce has a bangin’ body, and she’s not shy about showing it off. She has even used media criticism as inspiration for some of her music – including one of her biggest hits, which saw the term ‘bootylicious’ added to every woman’s body-love vocab.

Bootylicious was funny, but it came from people saying that I had gained weight and me being like, ‘I’m a southern woman, and this is how southern women are’.”

Adele

Powerhouse songstress Adele makes no apologies for her curves, and has been quoted numerous times on the fact that she’d rather enjoy her life, eat nice food and drink good wine than spend time at the gym.

“I read a comment on YouTube that I thought would upset me — ‘Test pilot for pies’ — but I’ve always been a size 14-16 and been fine with it. I would only lose weight if it affected my health or sex life, which it doesn’t.”

Jennifer Lawrence

J.Law is like everyone’s imagined celebrity BFF, right? I’m sure part of that has to do with her very vocal thoughts on body love, self-acceptance, and not bending to the Hollywood diet-diatribe.  She told Yahoo! CEO Melissa Mayer in an interview:

“You look how you look, you have to be comfortable. What are you going to do? Be hungry every single day to make other people happy? That’s just dumb.”

Amy Poehler

Could there really be any kind of discussion about confidence and self-love without a quote from Amy Poehler? This fierce and funny lady is celebrated for dishing out inspiring and practical pearls of wisdom for girls and women, and her philosophies on body love are no exception. In one of her Ask Amy vlogs, she says:

“Sometimes a good way to help yourself get out of it is to have some gratitude… if you can go around your body and kind of thank it for what it gives you and thank yourself for your great eyesight, or your thick hair, or your nice legs, or your strong teeth, or whatever it is that you have that you were given. And make friends with those parts of your body and not try to focus on the parts that will never change.”

You know who has a pretty amazing body? You do, even if you don’t always recognize it. Its high time we all started to focus less on our perceived flaws, and more on the ways in which our bodies are worth celebrating. So tell us – how do you act as your own body-love hero?

Body Positive Activism, Education, Featured

Selfies as a Feminist Statement?

If you’ve never taken a selfie, you’re one of the very few. Some people think of them as a sign of the times – a reflection of society’s increasingly unapologetic narcissism. Others consider them a form of expression – a medium through which they can tell the world “hey this is me, and this is what makes my life meaningful”.

One woman, though, considers her selfies to be a feminist statement, and has created an entire photography project around them on Tumblr, juxtaposing them with some of the cruel comments submitted by anonymous internet trolls to highlight the “girl-on-girl hate” currently prevalent in the online sphere.

Lindsay Bottos is a photography major and gender studies minor at the Maryland Institute College of Art in the USA. She has been posting via the popular micro-blogging platform Tumblr since 2010, and over the years has received hundreds of cruel anonymous messages. These messages promoted her to create Anonymous early this year – a work in progress post that has since gone viral.

On her blog, Lindsay says:

I get tons of anonymous messages like this every day and while this isn’t unique to women, the content of the messages and the frequency in which I get them are definitely related to my gender. I almost exclusively get them after I post selfies. The authority people feel they have to share their opinion on my appearance is something myself and many other girls online deal with daily.

Though the anonymous messages affected her, she began to take screenshot them, and put them back into the medium from whence they came. She says that while some people consider selfies to be a cry for attention, wanting attention isn’t bad. She says:

The act of women taking selfies is inherently feminist, especially in a society that tries so hard to tell women that our bodies are projects to be worked on and a society that profits off of the insecurities that it perpetuates. Selfies are like a ‘fuck you’ to all of that, they declare that ‘hey I look awesome today and I want to share that with everyone’ and that’s pretty revolutionary.

It’s an interesting concept, and I happen to think Lindsay’s philosophy on the selfie is pretty badass. What do you reckon?

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Are Higher Priced Sex Toys Really Worth It?

From the limestone dildo of the ancient Egyptians to the steam-powered vibrators of the Victorian era, to the cheap plastics and rubbers of the 1990s; the evolution of the sex toy paints a picture of our technological development.

But technology of any era shares a single constant; you get what you pay for. And what you’ve been paying for up until now may shock and even sicken you, if it hasn’t already.

Luckily, improved materials and innovation have given consumers a wide variety of higher-end discreet sex toys that have multiple advantages over their lesser-priced cousins.

So here’s what you get with better quality sex toys:

Better Performance

A cheap vibrator is likely to have a cheap motor. It might last a few sessions, but it’s unlikely to last far beyond that. And while it works, it’s likely to be weak, a less moving experience. Or it may be loud and clumsy, telling your family members or even your neighbours more than they want or need to know.

But today’s better quality toys are quieter and more powerful, with greater ranges of settings for different speeds and sensations. From jackhammer strong to a feather touch, today’s higher priced sex toys really deliver. If the neighbours are hearing you, at least they’ll only be hearing you.

Discretion

Forget the plastic vagina or the rubber dong. High quality sex toys are simple and sophisticated. Glass dildos are often hand blown and look more like works of art than sex toys. And today’s modern toys have shrunk down considerably. Smaller toys and discreet designs make today’s higher quality sex toys more mainstream and acceptable.

Eco-Friendly

Batteries were the heartbeat and the lifeblood of the vibrator for years, but those days are over. Say goodbye to batteries for your vibrator! Not only are toys more eco-friendly, they are also more innovative, including being remote controlled. Remote controlled adult toys are great for couples play as well as individual amusement.

Waterproof

If water play is your thing, today’s high quality sex toys will give you plenty to splash about. Old technologies prevented the vibrator from being submerged in water, but now you can really batten down the hatches because water-safe toys are more versatile. Now you can have even more fun in the shower or bathtub!

Body-Safe Materials

Many people don’t know is that the adult toy industry is unregulated, which means that toxic plastics and rubbers have long been used in the lower-end sex toys. Phthalates and other toxic chemicals found in these materials are hazardous simply to touch, and innocent consumers have been inserting these are objects into their bodies for years.

Today’s high quality sex toys are made with body-safe, phthalate-free materials that are both long-lasting and hypoallergenic. With proper care and cleaning, they can remain sanitary and provide years of worry-free use. And how much will all this quality cost? It varies, of course.

For a high quality sex toy, you can expect to pay about $100 or more. That may sound like a lot. But it’s a lot less than you’ll pay for a flat-screen TV, a new iPhone, or a nice evening out. And you’re likely to get more hours of pleasure from your new high quality sex toy than any TV or meal can provide.

So don’t be afraid to give high quality sex toys a second look. When it comes to sex toys, isn’t quality and piece of mind worth the extra investment?

 

A couple using the mad lib dirty talk cheat sheet
Education, Featured, Sex Ed

Your Mad Lib Dirty Talk Cheat Sheet

 

Curious about dirty talk, but can’t bring yourself to spill while in the throes of passion? If you want to heat things up with a little naughty dialogue, or your lover is begging you to tell them what you really like in bed, it may be time to throw you inhibitions to the wind and release the nasty-talkin’ strumpet locked inside of you – check out our mad lib dirty talk cheat sheet.

Talking dirty can be embarrassing for beginners – but it can be a great way to turn you and your partner on, and express what you like and how you like it in a fun, non-serious and low-pressure way.

If you’re used to being the sultry silent type, be aware that you may feel a little silly at first. Work your way into it. Start by complimenting your lover. You might tell them how much you love a particularly sexy body part of theirs, or give them a verbal high-five on something they do that drives you wild.

Let go of your inhibitions, try not to feel self-conscious and go with the flow. Obviously, like anything, if talking dirty just isn’t your thing you should never feel pressured to do it because someone else wants you to. But if you are intrigued, and just not quite sure where to start, why not try some of the below five suggestions to get the ball rolling? They’re written Mad Libs-style, so all you have to do is fill in the blanks with some of the suggested saucy verbs, adjectives and nouns… or use your own.

Once you get started you may find it hard to stop!

Dirty Talk Mad Lib Cheats

  • I love it when you (  v  ) my (  n  )…
  • It feels so good when you (  v  ) your (  n  ) on/in/across my (  a  )(  n  )…
  • Do you like it when I (  v  ) your (  n  ) with my (  n  )?
  • What do you want me to do? Shall I (  v  ) your (  a  ) (  n  )?
  • You know what I’d really like? I’d love it if you’d (  v  ) my (  n  )…

Fill them in with:

Frisky Verbs

…kiss, bite, lick, tease, stroke, tweak, pinch, rub, caress, tickle, massage, fuck, finger, tongue, suck…

Dirty Nouns

…neck, lips, earlobe, breasts, nipples, belly, pussy, clit, cock, balls, shaft, head, ass, ass-cheeks, asshole, legs, shoulders, tongue, feet, mouth…

Filthy Adjectives

…hot, dirty, wet, hard, swollen, throbbing, thick, arching, slick, tight…

Remember that talking dirty is about fun, so don’t take yourself too seriously. Laughter is sexy too, after all.

 

 

Education, Featured, Relationships

5 Sex and the City Myths We Need to Let Go of Immediately

I have to pre-empt this post by admitting that I was a huge Sex and the City fan when it first screened on TV. I own a box set, and will still linger on an episode if I’m channel-flicking and come across a rerun. However, as I’ve gotten older and (I hope) a little wiser, I’ve found some of the myths SATC perpetuates about sex and relationships actually really irk me. Here are my Top 5.

Single life Sucks

The Myth: Apart from Samantha, who was painted as being all-but relationship phobic, all of the other key players in SATC basically bemoan single life whenever they’re not in relationships.

The Truth: Being single can be the best time of your life. You’re free to do whatever you want, without having to factor in the needs and feelings of a significant other.

Trying to Change Your Lover Can Result in a Happy Ending

The Myth: You might not be able to change a man – but you should go ahead and try anyway. Case in point, Carrie and Mr Big. Let’s face it – he may be dashing in a tall, dark and handsome kind of way, but Big was basically an emotional retard who treated Carrie like crap. And what’s Carrie’s happy ending? She marries him. Um… Yeah.

The Truth: The real truth is that people change all the time. You’re not the same person you were five years ago – or maybe even last year. We’re all capable of change, but that doesn’t meaning trying to change the person you love is ever going to do either of you any good. They can end up feeling ‘less than’ and resenting you for it. And you might find changing them stops them from being the person you were attracted to in the first place. Proceed with caution.

If You Break Up, You’ll Need to Wallow for X Weeks/ Months/ Years

The Myth:  It takes half of the duration of a relationship to get over a breakup. Although I’m pretty sure it was Charlotte who came up with this rule, and did we ever really give much credibility to her thoughts on dating?

The Truth: You’ll get over your breakup when you’re good and ready. In some cases, you’ll be waving a genuine good riddance to them as soon as they’re out of your life. In other instances, you might still feel panicked if you see them tagged in a photo on Facebook years later. Be kind to yourself, and go at your own pace, lady.

Small Dicks and Impotence are Deal-Breakers

The Myth: If a guy has a small dick or can’t get it up your relationship is doomed. Don’t bother with counseling or communication or other forms of intimacy.

The Truth: Sure, a big hard dick can be an asset when it comes to your sex life, but it’s not the be all and end all. There are plenty of couples that get along just fine – and even thrive – turning to alternative forms of intimacy and stimulation to have satisfying sex lives. And size isn’t everything. As a friend of mine was fond of saying in high school… it’s the motion of the ocean that really counts.

You Should Forgive Your Partner for Anything If They’re THE ONE

The Myth: If your soul mate leaves you hanging for a decade, marries someone else, comes back to you, leaves again, proposes, leaves you at the alter, and then makes you live your dreams a little smaller so they can deal, it’s all okay as long as they’re The One.

The Truth: Forgiveness is a crucial component in any relationship, but being able to forgive doesn’t mean walking around with your hands over your eyes because you have unquestionable faith that this is the person you’re supposed to end up with. If there is such a thing as soul mates, you can probably have many of them – just consider the friends you’ve met over the years whom you’ve instantly clicked with, or the fact that you may have experienced BIG love more than once already in your lifetime.  The only unquestionable ONE in your relationship is you. Put your own happiness and the rest will follow.

What SATC myth irks you most? Share it with us in the comments!

Education, Featured

Three Golden Rules of the Strip Tease

Ever imagined seducing your lover with a look and a wiggle and the shimmy of two tasseled pasties? The art of the strip tease has taken many forms throughout the centuries. Often, it has been informed and directed by the male gaze – but an increasing number of women are reclaiming and reimagining the tease, and using it as a form of sensual self-expression.

If you’re curious about the strip, follow our handy How To as a guide to get your wiggle on in no time.

Feel Sexy, Look Sexy

First, there is no right or wrong way to strip. That might sound pretty vague as the start of a How To guide, but hear me out. You don’t have to follow anyone else’s rules or try to fit into any else’s ideals of sexy or sensual. The same goes for how you choose to reveal that hot bod of yours, one glorious inch of skin at a time.

Get into the groove and let your intuition be your guide. If you feel sexy doing something, chances are you’re going to look sexy doing it. If you feel awkward or uncomfortable, that’s going be just as obvious. Relaaaaax. This is no Dancing with the Stars audition. This is just you and you lover (probably…) sharing a fun and intimate moment, so you really don’t need to worry about getting anything perfect.

Seduce Your Lover – and Yourself – with Music

If you want to strip seductively, chances are you’re going to find it a lot easier to do with some great music inspiring your movements. Music can guide us into a natural rhythm, and help us relax. It can also affect those parts of the brain that put you in the mood, so make the most of your iTunes playlist and create a playlist to swivel your hips and shake that booty to.

Select some songs that always make you feel sensual and think sexy thoughts. If you want something slow and teasing, consider a sexily drawling track like The White Stripes’ I Just Don’t Know What to Do With Myself. Whether you intend to swing around a pole in your panties or not, Kate Moss embodies the spirit of slow, hungry seduction in their music video for the cover, if you’re looking for a little inspiration.

http://youtu.be/1_RZAGnFcI4

Prefer something more wickedly entertaining? A song that doesn’t take itself too seriously and allows you to ham it up a bit while you’re strutting your stuff? Warrant’s Cherry Pie offers just the right mix of cheesy and flirty, and can be a great option if you just want to have fun. Another great option: It was good enough for Channing Tatum to grind to in Magic Mike, and Ginuwine’s Pony is one of those raw, sexy songs that really just lends itself to getting neekid to.

Layer Up for a More Tantalizing Strip Down

Don’t make the rookie mistake of starting a striptease in jeans, a teeshirt and your underwear, unless you want to be naked really quickly, and don’t mind tugging awkwardly to get your jeans off your ankles. If you’re going to plan anything, ensure you’re wearing a few different layers that can be easily peeled off one by one. The strip tease is about building anticipation and desire more than anything else. Too few clothes to remove and you risk a premature climax. You don’t have to invest in those clear acrylic stripper shoes (unless you want to) or a Dita Von Teese-inspired negligee (unless you want to) or spendy sequin-covered pasties (unless you want to).

Throw on whatever you feel sexy in, layer up, and choose items that will be easy enough to slip off at a critical moment. Accessories like silk scarves, hats and belts can be great to add another layer of intrigue to your routine, without adding a lot of bulk to your overall outfit.

What’s your favorite song to strip to, or favorite strip tease move? We’d love to hear your tips! 

Education, Featured

Sex Camp Part 3 (aka ménage a trois)

Balls Deep

OK…OK… possibly the most misleading hook ever. I’m not really going to tell you about a threesome at sex camp (maybe for another day). Instead, I’m going to sink – as the saying goes – balls deep into some chakra fucking, sexual awakening and conscious touch – yay!!

From the beginning I was ridiculously torn about going to Soreya James’ ‘A Journey of Sexual Awakening’, as the exquisite Goddess Gabrielle’s ‘Tantric Flogging’ workshop was also happening at the same time – and The Cuntress Gabrielle (as she is so fondly referred) is Dominatrix Divinity personified – and should really never be missed (or she may spank you to within an inch of your pathetic life – and you’ll love it of course). So with not just an eensy-weensy bit of regret, I headed off to give my Inner Goddess a jolly good shake outta bed. Bring on the Kundalini!!

Opening Up Your Heart

I found myself on the floor in a cuddle-puddle of other sex campers breathing and visualising, reprogramming on a ‘cellular level’ with the guidance of Soreya. There was part of me that totally didn’t get what I was doing there…Soreya was intermittently talking in some loud ‘Angelic’ language (which basically sounds like she’s making shit up) – strongly resembling a wailing banshee and throwing me back in time through flashbacks to my childhood spent in Pentecostal churches (Praise the Lord! Hallelujah! And all that throwing yourself on the ground and talking in tongues mumbo jumbo) – and yet I was moved by her earnestness and her story. And then the unfathomable occurred. She’d moved to a visualisation that has been created (or transmitted) to shift our old patterns and programmes, to release our heart of old hurts and my sternum literally – I mean actually and physically – cracked. I. Couldn’t. Make. This. Shit. Up. We then crazy danced ’til we were all dripping with sweat, rosy cheeked, panting and full of endorphins and oxytocins, all on some wild, sexy shamanic ride. I walked away bemused, but feeling so much lighter. Goddamn.

Soulful Surrender

I then wended my way to the gentle arms, voice and soul of Cath Carter, with her ‘Sacred Art of Conscious Touch’ workshop. This workshop included the use of eye gazing to connect us with others. During this session I found myself staring into the gentle, soulful gaze of a beautiful stranger, who allowed me to be vulnerable and so dear to them – even though we’ve never met. I gently walked through the door of their soul and curled up into a safe, secure soul embrace without expectation or judgement. I may have fallen a little in love.

Dance Like No-one’s Watching

And then the grand finale of the evening – Party Higher’s Silent Disco. You could dress up, get down and dance to your heart’s delight – through the evening and into the morning if you’re so inclined (which I was because I’m a dirty stop). The beauty of the Silent Disco is that you can have a party anywhere, anytime and not disturb the neighbours! (Oh if only loud, rambunctious, noisy sex could be this easy!!). Everyone was given a set of wireless headphones, where you had the choice of three music channels at the flick of a switch. Not only could you dance to your own choice of music, you were even able to set your own volume – just perfect for sex campers who like to dance to their own tune.

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The Skinny on Aphrodisiacs

People have been turning to aphrodisiacs to increase and enhance sexual desire for hundreds of years, and many claim they really do work. Here are five that have science backing them, including two you probably know about, and three that might surprise you.

Oysters

Oysters are one of the most famous aphrodisiacs – and Casanova was famed for eating them by the dozen. Closely associated with Aphrodite (who was said to have sprung from an oyster shell and for whom aphrodisiacs are named) this shell food contains massive amounts of zinc, which increases sperm and testosterone production in men.

Chocolate

While chocolate was originally considered an aphrodisiac because it was so rare, the chemical effect this sweet treat can have on your brain may well contribute to loved-up feelings. Chocolate can increase your serotonin levels, which makes you feel happier, and it also contains caffeine, for a natural boost of energy.

Pumpkin Pie

You might not immediately conjure up an image of pumpkin pie when you think about foods that can increase your desire, but research by the scientists at Chicago’s Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation have found that the smell of pumpkin pie can increase blood flow to the penis by as much as 40 percent, and can increase sexual desire in women. Containing cinnamon and vanilla, which are also known for their aphrodisiac qualities, pumpkin pie may be a fun sweet treat for lovers looking to increase their… appetites.

Asparagus

It’s probably better known for making your pee smell funky, but asparagus was served to grooms in 19th century France for good reason. Not only it is a great source of vitamins and potassium, but asparagus is also rich in folic acid which boosts the histamine production necessary for both men and women to orgasm.

Pomegranate Juice

Pomegranates are full of antioxidants, which make them great for your health – but they may also help lovers feel friskier. Researchers have found drinking pomegranate juice can lift testosterone levels by as much as 30 percent, which can increase sexual desire in both men and women.

Is there a feel-good food you think should be added to our list? What aphrodisiacs work for you?

Featured, Relationships

Are You Putting Too Many Eggs In One Basket?

If You Like It Then  You Shoulda Put A Ring.. Nevermind!

For most women in the west, just a few short decades ago your life path was largely determined by who you married. Economic situation, intellectual stimulation, sex life, major life decisions, emotional support and quite often your social circle.

Your happiness was quite often dependent on finding the right man to marry. We have now mostly broken free from this idea that a man needs to provide economic security and intellectual stimulation as we entered the out-of-home work place en masse.

But what about our other needs? Housing arrangements, friendships, sexuality, goals and dreams. Are we still relying on one perfect man that will match our needs in all of these diverse areas? Is there a way to relieve this pressure cooker scenario when dating or within an established relationships?

Many couples that can afford it are choosing a living situation dubbed ‘living together apart’. While the pearl clutchers may claim society is falling apart, that it is dysfunctional and that they should move on and find someone they would be happy to share a living space with, many ‘LAT’s’ claim to be deliriously happy with the arrangement.

Research shows they are often more satisfied with their relationships and experience less conflicts than their cohabiting counterparts. While it is not for everyone, creatives and introverts that need time alone to create and recharge often thrive with this kind of arrangement.

Isn’t it time we had an honest chat with ourselves and our partners about our human need for multiple partners?

No More Racing Down The Aisle?

As many have delayed marriage to pursue other goals or have many relationships, the long period before coupling up and the inevitable break ups means relying on emotional support from a romantic partner is a rather risky emotional insurance policy. Even if in a romantic relationship, many women are finding while their man might give a warm shoulder to cry on during the hard times, when it comes to the emotional analysis gay or female friends are a better support.

What would art, film, literature and TV dramas have to do for content if it weren’t a basic truth that humans are a non-monogamous animal that thinks it’s meant to be monogamous? There are almost endless ways of meeting our sexual, physical needs outside of the partnered for life model.

 

When Three Isn’t A Crowd; A New Relationship Paradigm

Swingers, open relationships, serial monogamy, fuck buddies, holiday flings, the flirtation with your local barista, a weekly coffee date with a male friend that gives great hugs, cyber sex, the lover that makes you feel like a cherished goddess and the one that likes to explore shared kinks. Isn’t it time we had an honest chat with ourselves and our partners about our human need for multiple partners?

For a modern empowered women there can be a lot of downsides to relationships. Ingrained gender roles can still prevail when shacked up together or when children arrive. Despite how enlightened you think of yourself and your partner, there is something about the arrival of children that brings up unconscious ways of doing things that you witnessed in your own childhood.

Despite how enlightened you think of yourself and your partner, there is something about the arrival of children that brings up unconscious ways of doing things that you witnessed in your own childhood.

Having to compromise on the majority of decisions from the decor to which country you live in can require huge sacrifices and result in resentment. If you already have the majority of your needs met as a single woman, a relationship can either be the cherry on top, or you can happily wait for the match so perfect that any compromises required are barely noticeable.

Let’s get our needs met on our own terms and not on Hollywood’s relationship model.

Featured, Sex Toys 101

Lelo Lux: Spendy Sex Toys for $800+

Lelo is one of the world’s leading designers and manufacturers of sophisticated and stylish pleasure pieces – but did you know they carry a lux line of sex toys for ladies and gents who dream of desire in silver and gold?

Inez: Smooth and Seamless

Inez is one of the most exclusive and elegant vibrators ever created, and is available from Lelo in stainless steel or 24 carat gold-plate. Featuring a virtually-silent engine and a smooth, seamless design, it’s the ultimate vibe for pleasure seekers for whom price is no object. It will set you back around $15000 in gold or $10000 in stainless steel… but can you really put a price on indulgence?

Yva: Petite Power

Crafted in stainless steel or 24 carat gold-plate, Yva is an enticing and evocative object of pleasure, beautifully engineered to provide deep and resonant vibrations. Small and quiet but exceedingly powerful, this tantalizing tool is great for temperature play, and will feel divine – warm or cool – against naked skin. Available from Lelo for around $4000 in gold or $3000 in stainless steel.

Earl: Gentle Elegance

Here’s one for the man in your life. Heralded as the most distinguished luxury pleasure piece for men, Earl is available in 24 carat gold-plat and stainless steel, and is sculpted to provide profound pleasure and deep internal stimulation. Designed for male G-spot massage, this elegant gentleman’s plug is engineered to offer a new level of release. Available from Lelo for around $3000 in gold, or around $1700 in stainless steel, Earl comes accessorized with matching cufflinks.

Olga: Dual Design

Crafted for dual pleasure purposes, Olga is designed for G-spot stimulation and conventional play to allow a varied experience and the fullest exploration of your desires. Available in 24 carat gold-plat for around $3500 and stainless steel for just under $800, Olga is destined to delight discerning shoppers.