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4 Reasons to Let Your Partner Watch You Masturbate

If your partner wants to watch you rub one out, flick the bean, catch the solo train to pleasure town (insert your own favorite euphemism here), there are four great reasons you should consider granting their racy request.

Big note here: you absolutely don’t have to let anyone in on your solo lovin’ time, and you should never feel pressured.

But if you’re in the mood for indulging their voyeur, bring it on:

It Can Be a Huge Turn On

Seriously, not only does letting them watch you feel a little naughty and play into the whole exhibitionist/voyeur thing, but you’re going to enjoy watching each other take pleasure in the experience. Watching you is going to make them hot and desperate to join in the action. Watching them watching you is going to make you feel desirable, powerful, and sexy.

They’ll Be Taking Notes

Your partner may be exceptional in bed already, but that doesn’t mean they can’t still learn a thing or two when it comes to what makes your body tick. Even if you’ve been together long term, there are probably a few things you do when you’re playing solo that you might not have thought to mention in conversation… of that you’ve been too embarrassed to mention or ask for.

They may be enjoying the experience, but rest assured, they’ll definitely be taking a couple of mental notes on things they can apply next time. The best way to learn something new is to have a good teacher – and who knows what excites you more than you do?

It Can Increase Intimacy

Masturbating is an intimate and personal experience, which is why it can be a little intimidating to do it in front of a partner if you haven’t tried it before. Essentially, you’re inviting them to witness you at your most vulnerable, and that can be a big deal.

You should never feel pressured to masturbate in front of your lover if you’re uncomfortable with the idea. But if you are comfortable, the fact that it’s so personal can really help to increase intimacy. There needs to be a high level of trust involved, so if in doubt, discuss the idea first diving right in (so to speak).

It’s a Hot Option When Sex Isn’t on the Table

If you can’t have sex for whatever reason, masturbating together can be an excellent erotic alternative, and can help to keep maintain intimacy through shared pleasure and touch.

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  • Reply Kiera Pedley January 17, 2014 at 12:39 pm

    I have just finished reading Betty Dobson’s Sex For One, and can merrily proclaim that masturbating is such an ENHANCEMENT to my romantic life.
    I used to view it as second class to sex, and what to do when you’re desperate. Not so anymore, flicking the bean for the WIN!

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